Jack’s Matter in Question
It’s media heyday whenever a scandal breaks out. From Bill Clinton to Tiger Woods, we’ve seen how the media thrives on celebrities’ scandals, turning what is essentially a domestic issue between these men and their wives, into the centre of everybody’s attention. As a fellow celebrity, I can understand the pressure that comes from the media and public. There is already the constant need to manage other people’s expectations, judgements and perceptions, whether it’s for the work we do, or the more personal details such as the person we’re dating, the place we’re getting married, or simply the way we look, that is amongst many other things. What more in instances where values and morality are being called to question?
Frustration? Exasperation? Nonchalence? I don’t know.
Whatever it is, I’m not envious.
Having said that, I don’t believe I have a right to pass any judgement on Jack. Neither am I taking any sides, because besides being a celebrity, I am also a woman.
I know what it feels like to have to personally deal with “the other woman”, no children involved; it’s complicated, it’s heart-wrenching and there will always be a lot of self-deception and delusions that things will change when they usually don’t.
I’ve also had close mates who become “the other woman”; they go through the same pain of loving someone who will not able to commit to them, with a constant fear of consequences and thoughts of ruining someone else tugging at their conscience. Yet for some reason, it’s hard to let go.
I realise that it’s where you’re standing when you’re looking at the issue that would influence your perceptions.
Having said that, right now I believe we are merely bystanders either willing or unwillingly (since there’s only one broadsheet in Singapore) dragged into a voyeuristic medium. Sure, we are entitled to watch on with aversion and condemnation, understanding or sympathy, whatever the emotional attachment that comes forth. But the way I see it, any verbal participation just wouldn’t add value nor improve the existing conditions for the parties involved.
Why then do we want to be so quick to impose our opinions on others if it does them no good and offers nothing for the betterment of our own and their lives?
Perhaps it’d be more helpful to walk away from this scandal with an important lesson, one that we do not need to experience for ourselves to learn.
I agree with your opinions. So , why did you even write the post?
Anyway, not interested to talk about Jack, it does nobody any good.
I'm more interested in your respond when your close mates became “the other woman”. What you did right? What you could have done, but did not do?
Blog about it, we could all learn from it as more of us could end up in your position then in Jack, his wife or Wendy's position.
March 11th, 2010 at 6:35 amAgree with you. Like Kevin I would like to hear your views. An affair is an affair…but Jack has an affair with a girl who is only three years younger than his daughter. This is a lot more serious than with someone his age. How would you advise your close mates (as young as you) if one of them became "the other woman" of Jack?
March 14th, 2010 at 2:15 pmDo you not sympathize with the hapless victims of sexual predators? Do you condone those who abuse their positions of authority and influence? Will your silence encourage victims to speak up or will it embolden philanderers to persist in their immorality?
Indeed, as a celebrity, you should state your stand clearly and unequivocally. Otherwise, you appear to condone the heinous acts of fiends and scoundrels, and to share in the complicity of their immoral and illegal acts.
March 14th, 2010 at 5:33 pmThe god is watching….how about those innocent gals who were REALLY BEING kenna harassed in terms of physically or verbally…god knows!!
March 15th, 2010 at 12:34 pm这个是对petunialee的response。轻饶我的japalang华文，我今年十二岁，在chij学习。我觉得呢，在这事情里面，jack neo ,和他家人，全部都是受害者。因该被责备的是，wendy chong。等，不要现在跟我讨论,先听我说。
March 16th, 2010 at 9:31 pm。如果，他的老婆去自杀，谁错呢？
。到低是谁，让他的家庭，受到很多的伤心，和泪水呢？
。对了你们又看ｐｒｅｓｓｃｏｎｆｅｒｅｎｃｅ，你们看ｍｒｓ ｎｅｏ，他又多么伤心吗？
所以，我常常喜欢把想握你的手的一位演员说同样的东西”多一事，不如少一事。“ｊａｃｋｎｅｏ，从很久就很爱自己的家庭，ｗｅｎｄｙ ｃｈｏｎｇ，， 本来不用去跟全世界说，‘’我跟ｊａｃｋｎｅo got affair.”。我不是在说，wendy chong不因该说出去他跟jackneo 有“那东西”，可是，他（wendychong) 可以悄悄，得跟jackneo 的老婆讨论。
所以呢，我就觉得，petunialee说george因为这样一个事情就会输总统选举，实在太离谱了。
我会再说一次，我现在只是十二岁，再CHIJ toa payoh 学习，所以想法和所写的字，有点幼稚。谢谢看我的想法！alikato kosaimatsu!
You comments about how the media thrives on celebrities scandals turning it from a domestic issue into public issue .I beg to differ .This is not totally a domestic issue but a case of abusing of authority and influence as a director in using stardom as a bait to lure innocent young gals as young as 16 yrs of age to have intimate relation .If such practises by Jack Neo isnt exposed by the media ,i wonder how many of such incidents will continue to happen around young gals placing under his charge
.And since it involve sexual harrassment ,then all the more it shouldnt be view as domestic issue .Anyway ,Jack Neo should have realise long ago if he was to continue with his pervert act ,it will be a matter of time before he get expose by the victims .He himself provide such opportunities for the media to thrive on such issues ,who can he blame for his predicament ?
March 17th, 2010 at 3:29 amI dont really agree with your view regarding how stressful and tough its to be a ''celebrity'' in sg .Infact i dont really consider actor and actress in sg to be a true celebrity.If you was to compare it with actor and actress from taiwan and hong kong ect ,you will be able to realise how insignificant sg ''celebrity '' is .Furthermore everybody have a choice to choose .Celebrity in sg can change their career path and seek better prospect if they find it too tough and stressful to handle .Isnt that what Fiona Xie ,one of your ex collegue did recently ?She gave up her job at mediacorp totally to lead a new life of her own .
March 17th, 2010 at 3:30 am(sorry, I'm really new to these comments stuff and here's to Jack, if he ever reads this.)
April 10th, 2010 at 3:47 pmAs a media person (what more a director), you cannot use the media in such a way that when you want publicity, you bait for it. When publicity wants you, you say 走开！走开！Like this.
Do you think that a common office worker, if having found to have an affair or harrassed young female collagues will be left to tend to his "own, personal matters?" Do you not think that his boss (if has integrity) will either ask him to stop his acts or for some, may dismiss such a character and ask him to leave. You have cheated. Period. Forgiveness is for those capable of remorse. Are you? Will you? And for how long? The tendancy of people forgetting their weakness is so high. No one has the right to tell you how to brush your teeth as much as no one has the right to tell you how to live your life. You chose to be in the limelight, so in a very cliched phrase I say, "You gotta be whiter than white", or you better 走开！
Anyone in reading would have noticed that a twelve-year-old would not normally use
April 10th, 2010 at 4:03 pm我在chij "学习". something uncanny and reads more like an adult. (?)
btw, if Jack's wife kills herself, the fault is hers. I believe the law agrees.
And if you are referring to moral law, then the fault lies with Jack.
Wendy may have been revengful, well, she was young and impressionable and by the time she had some senses, she got angry and hence the saga. Who could blame her.