Rallying around Jack Neo and his family
Jack Neo, his wife and children are going through an ordeal. Reports about
his infidelity will make the rounds and cause pain and embarrassment.
Before the news broke on Saturday evening, Jack called to tell me. He
wanted to tell me himself and not have me learn from newspaper reports.
Giving me the background, he was full of remorse, adding that his wife and
children were angry with him for what he did. I listened to what he said
with great sadness and said he was right to admit wrong and face up to his
responsibility. I was concerned for his wife. When he told me that his
wife was beside him, I asked to speak to her and pledged my full support to
them.
Life is a long and often difficult journey, and what Jack and his family
are going through is what he might have presented in his own movie, except
that this time it is about himself. We are used to having Jack make us
laugh, bring cheer to our daily lives, explain our trials and make them
easier to bear. Let us rally around Jack, his wife and his children at
this time.
People do make mistake so we should learn to forgive and give Jack and his family our support.
March 8th, 2010 at 7:51 amI read the news on Singapore's only Chinese Sunday paper. Quite surprises, a little disappointed but rather concerned that this sort of news had dominated quite a substantial front page coverage. Really wonder the rationale to feature this on main and not the entertainment news section. Are we wasting media resources? We should give try our best in giving the right balance and focus in life to the reader. Minister's Yeo's comments to give Jack's family our support is most appropriate. For it is within all members of the family that should come together and survive the ordeal. Leave them space for their own privacy and well wishes that they can move on together as one.
March 8th, 2010 at 11:08 amI'd rally around his wife and children, Mr Yeo. I think they need our support more.
March 8th, 2010 at 1:23 pmHe probably call you personally cos you are "someone"
If you are nobody, I don't think he bothers ..
it is a matter of choice and he chooses to be "naughty" so now he needs to pay the price.
and the wife choose to close an eye is giving him permission to carry on ..
if the gal have not exposed him, god knows how many more such cases there will be ..
Sorry is sometimes just a perfunctory word.
It could meant he am sorry cos he got caught …
His next script could be Beauty Not Enough …
starring Jack Neo and Tigers Wood.
Rally around him ?
March 9th, 2010 at 5:31 amHe don't deserve that … not a single iota of pity
What you sow is What you reap …
Human err and mistakes are to be learnt. Infidelity will not only bring down a family but also a nation. Family and moral values need to be emphasized in our education.
March 9th, 2010 at 1:16 amWhile I sympathize Jack’s wife and kids, I have no sympathy for him. If he has really taken advantage of the ladies because of his empty promises (of stardom) then he really deserved his current predicament.
My sympathy also go to his victims
March 9th, 2010 at 10:15 amAgree with Harris. JN's a grown man & should face up whatever consequences of his actions. Thus the media should indeed give space to JN's family but they can hunt down JN for all I care. Ultimately when he chose to have affairs, he should see this coming too.
March 9th, 2010 at 2:15 amWhy rally around Jack? He is the one who caused all these problems. Like Harris said, we should rally around his wife and children.
If you condone this behaviour, sooner or later, he will become a big problem for society. His wife already knew about this affair a year ago and let it be? Something's wrong here.
Obviously, he need to take the punishment. One wife no enough? LOL
March 9th, 2010 at 3:05 amSo every infidel husband should get public support? Then what is the point of promoting family values?
Or is Jack Neo special because he knew the right people?
Should government officials publicly support unfaithful husbands? I would like to see a debate on this.
March 9th, 2010 at 3:33 amWhy full support for Jack Neo only? He has not issued an apology yet. From all the reports, he seemed to be the sexual predator here.
Mr Minister, would you comment about his trangressions. What about Wendy? And now Foyce. Perhaps more to come. Are you sure you want to support him before you get your facts right?
March 9th, 2010 at 11:44 amJack should face the music like a man. Why is everyone so nice to him? Dont forget the victim is only a very young girl and Jack exploited her. And why the hell did he bring along a pastor to settle the issue. To make him more look less guilty?
Please consider the plight of the poor young girl. Our sympathy should be with her. With so much support for Jack, it seems the wrong doing is very light and the injured party is jack and his family. Time to refocus and show so concern for the real victim.
Thanks,
March 9th, 2010 at 3:54 amI think the sympathy has been misplaced. I am not surprised at the outcome but I am surprised that this outcome came out after such a long time. I have heard of his "pursuits" since 2002. I hope more will come out and reveal what kind of character this Jack Neo is. I also hope that those who have been mistreated or underpaid for work done for him and his company will also come out and spill out the beans
March 9th, 2010 at 4:43 amBlogposter,
You are a personal friend to Jack; your sympathies and call for support hold about as much water as a boat with holes.
"Let us rally around Jack, his wife and his children at this time."
Sure, say that again when a 50y/o married man is spending some time with your daughter.
March 9th, 2010 at 5:04 amJack was awarded the Cultural Medallion by the Sgp Govt and thus become a role model for all SGPoreans. Instead of guiding young people with right principles and ethics, he preyed on their ignorance and victimised them. He not only deceived himself and his family, he deceived the SGP govt, the SGP people who placed total faith and trust in him. He is a hypocrite who promotes virtuous values in his movies but act in contrary to them in real life. He is a demon in saint's garb- a cheat, a threat to our young innocent daughters eager to make a headway in the movie industry. Can SGP afford another Cultural Medallion winner to breach this trust and make a mockery out of the SGP govt and people? George Yeo should have berated and censured him for abusing this trust. Forgiving him without taking appropriate actions is a display of lack of wisdom. The ones whom we should rally behind is not Jack Neo but the many young aspiring movie directors who look up to JN as a role model, the many SGPoreans who felt the purity of JN in his movies, who in the end, are let down by the revelation of his true colours – one who is selfish, lustful, dishonest, a predator. Please retract his Cultural Medallion and all public service awards conferred to him as he no longer deserves it.
March 9th, 2010 at 8:26 amWih due respect to FM George Yeo, I find his caption "Rallying around Jack Neo and his family" ironical and inappropriate.
March 9th, 2010 at 9:31 amFirstly, the victims in this case are the young aspiring actress wanabe and of course, Jack's family.
Jack Neo is the perpetrator who abused his position as a well-known movie director , public service award winner who is supposedly to be of pure ethical conduct but preyed on young ignorant minds and take advantage of her sexually instead. This man is sick in the mind. To me, he is no different from Jack the Ripper.
By the caption, it would seemed that Jack is a victim too. That certainly is not the case.
Does someone of such character like Jack deserve our rallying?
I have encouraged my children to watch Jack's movie for his moral story and follow his example of having good moral values and creativity. What am I going to tell my children now? That it is alright to have an affair and apologise, Minister forgive and life will go on? What kind of values then are we trying to impart to the young generations who would be the future foundation of society who are supposed to thrive on honesty and integrity?
Being a public figure carries a heavy responsibility of being accountable not only to oneself and family but also to the public at large. High moral standings are not expected of them but required of them. Especially so in our Asian society, there is no room for trangressions of any form.
Having said that, forgiving and helping Jack is what we all should do as a fellow human being, provided he is 100% remorseful for his actions. To show his sincerity, he should quit the movie industry for good (as he has lost his credibility and also to avoid being tempted to cheat young girls again), go into a retreat of self healing or professional counselling, devote his time to social work and return all the public awards given to him and become a quiet private citizen.
For that, I will rally behind him.
I am totally agreed with Joe. Why rally around Jack! I must said that his preys are young and gullible girls who are just out to look for stardom. I am a mother of three grown up girls and i can't imagine if one of those girls happened to be my daughter.
March 9th, 2010 at 10:55 amEric Yeow * TO ALL THOSE PEOPLE WHO STILL WANT TO BLAME DIRECTOR JACK NEO FOR HIS RECENT WELL-PUBLICISE INCIDENT , IF U ALL R HEARING THIS , DONT EVER TRY TO BLAME JACK NEO DIRECTOR FOR HIS RECENT FORGIVEABLE MISTAKE AS A COVER UP TO BOASTEN UP YOUR SELF-ESTEEM & CONFIDENCE , THIS TACTIC WONT WORK & WILL NEVER WORK COS ITS TOTAL…
March 9th, 2010 at 11:34 amLianhe Wanbao has just reported that there is a 3rd and 4th girl. I think the Minister should consider withdrawing the cultural medallion from him. He has clearly taken advantage of his position to take advantage of vunerable young girls.
March 9th, 2010 at 12:24 pmAgree with Joe. Why pledge your full support to jack Neo only, mr minister. What about the victims and their families! Is it because he is a celebrity and he called you in advance.____I am so angry with this bia-ness. He has not even issued an apology to the victims yet. What's worse, from all the reports, it seems to me he is the sexual predator here.____Look around you in the other forums. People are wholly disappointed with him and his behaviour. There is not one but numerous other women involved. What would you do if they were your family or friends. Mr minister, would you comment on his trangressions? ____
March 9th, 2010 at 12:42 pmHonestly, I do pity Wendy. I know it takes two hands to clap. She is in the wrong too. However, she's only 22. She still got a long way to go. Can you imagine.. she got to face this issue for all her life! Her career, her love life..etc will definitely be affected. Ppl will remember her as the girl who slept with Jack Neo and destroy his family. In the first place, the person to be blamed most is Mr Neo. He should not have initiated the first move. This is his fault and he got to face the music. We do not know whether there are any other women who are also his victims. Only he knows. He should step out and speak the truth.
March 9th, 2010 at 2:22 pmI'm disappointed but I'm willing to give him a second chance.I guess most of us will if he is willing to change for the better. For once, I think he should start focusing on directing his own life to the right course instead of directing more movies.
“Since he is remorseful over this incident, he should be forgiven. Actually, a man who has good career development would find such scenarios unavoidable.”
~ Mr Lim Biow Chuan, MP for Marine Parade GRC.
It turns out, I am more disturbed by MP Lim Biow Chuan’s response than I am by Jack’s transgressions. “Unavoidable?” If that is the case then, Mr Lim, where does personal responsibility come in? Does that make cheating by “a man with good career development” more excusable and understandable than that by "a man with poor career prospects"?
At the centre of this incident is a man who cheated. If you dig a little deeper, he is one man, out of a sea of many men who cheat. His wife, is one out of a sea of many women who may choose to “close one eye”.
Millions of people, both men and women, face all kinds of temptation every day. Many of us exercise our own human conscience by ignoring them firmly. The choices we make to AVOID temptation come at our short- term personal cost, or at the expense of our own vanity, but as humans we have the ability to choose. By Mr Lim’s words, he takes away credit from people who do exercise judgement and discernment, and absolves personal responsibility from people who do not.
I do not intend to crucify Jack Neo, as much as I am disgusted by his sexual perversion towards a woman half his age. But for Mr. Lim to make excuses for him is wrong.
Dignity is every married person’s right, and a fellow woman’s reprehension at one man’s shocking behaviour has a right to be expressed before it is forgiven. Every woman deserves the right to a monogamous relationship, without having to accept that her husband found himself in an “unavoidable” situation.
The just anger that we feel is independent of our propensity to forgive.
Many women have come to accept that affairs and adultery are “part and parcel” of family life. Our cause for respect and dignity is hampered when other men, including MPs, condone and make excuses for breaches in personal conduct.
As women we can speak out, not only for ourselves, but for women who cannot. We speak out because we then raise the bar on our own behaviour. We speak out against the much-feared “other woman”, so that more women will stop being "the other woman."
If we do not make a stand about personal accountability, who will? If we ourselves do not insist that cheating is inexcusable, who will?
Our outcry should encourage other men to think long and hard before cheating, and reiterate that at least some faction of society values personal responsibility over carnal responses.
Like John Terry, Ashley Cole, Tiger Woods and Bill Clinton, all may be forgiven in due course. But for now, at least, let the just anger of the public be expressed. Soon enough, people will find it in them to do as Mr. Yeo has advised. They may not even have to look very far.
March 9th, 2010 at 3:44 pmThose who are faithful know only the trivial side of love: it is the faithless who know love’s tragedies.
March 10th, 2010 at 12:58 amToday's forum page posted a note saying that the Minister had not meant to condone adultery. It is true that the Minister said nothing about condoning the adultery. That would have been worse.
Because it is bad enough that he extends support and asks the nation to extend support to Neo and his family… without mentioning the plight of the 2 girls barely out of their teens.
To withstand the onslaught of sexual grooming by Jack Neo, a twenty year old who was only a teenager the year before would need strong support from a mother figure…. a woman with experience and hindsight. There is NO way a twenty year old can keep her head in such circumstances without a mature woman's guidance. It is not a level playing field. It wasn't the mistress who pursued him. It was the other way around… and JN pursued more than one almost-teen whilst ATTENDING CHURCH!! The difference between Foyce and Wendy is that Foyce had adequate guidance from her mother.
March 10th, 2010 at 1:26 amThe way I see it, Jack Neo keeps his friends and his career. His wife develops the aura of a saint, and of course, in forgiving her husband retains all access to his wealth… and maintains a semblance of an intact family for the benefit of the children. If I were his wife, a mature woman, I would find it sensible to plan my strategy in order to conserve material and social resources. CLOSE ONE EYE.
Being so open to meeting the mistress, the wife is under no illusions about her husband… and is probably secure in her husband's LOVE (i.e., respect and lifelong support) … and when a woman reaches a certain age, it may actually be convenient to know that one's husband has ready access to a piece of meat upon whom he discharge his pent-up LUST.
The wife keeps JN's respect (and the world's), maintains access to his wealth, knows that he will be there with her in old age…
March 10th, 2010 at 1:28 amHis mistress believed he loved her. After all, he told her so. Yet, at the end of this, his mistress has neither friends, career, reputation … and she has discovered that she never had his love. Chong is the one to be pitied. Not Neo and his family.
George Yeo could either have kept quiet or taken a line where the TRUE victim is also spoken for.
At the end of the day, for JN and his wife (and the majority of the judgmental public), the mistress is only a piece of meat. That is tragic because the girl, if left alone, could have become a woman instead of a piece of meat.
You've broken the hearts of many long-time PAP supporters, including mine.
March 10th, 2010 at 1:29 amHmm that’s very interessting but to be honest i have a hard time seeing it… I’m wondering what others have to say….
March 10th, 2010 at 9:42 ami DO NOT sympathize with JACK NEO. He DIVORCED his first wife (ROM already) after getting to know that she was diagnosed with CANCER! JACK NEO ran away from his responsibility and duty as a HUSBAND. The hurt and damages that he has caused to his first wife and his wife's family and relatives and those who loved her.
Then he remarried and have four children, have so many affairs, now all exposed!!! PREY on all the young girls.
You tell everyone that you are remorseful. REALLY?
March 10th, 2010 at 1:48 amDO YOU THINK GOD WILL FORGIVE YOU????
JN chooses to commit whatever he did. he is well aware of the consequences, as an accomplished public figure. Wendy (and other girls) chooses to be with him, knowing that he is a married man. his wife chooses to silently support his infidelity after she came to know about it more than a year ago. they should all be responsible for their own life choices. why should we, as public, rally around them?
on what basis do we rally around them? in support of promiscuity, infedilty, betrayal of wife and family? and does that mean it is alright to exploit girls using his position and poser as director and using stardom as bait? this is an INTEGRITY issue! are these the values that the government and we, as parents, should be promoting?!!
March 10th, 2010 at 9:55 amI agree, poor victims
March 10th, 2010 at 2:38 amI agree to Harris n Joe. This is the result of his own lust, infidelity and unfaithfulness, why should we rally around him. Such a hypocrite.
March 10th, 2010 at 2:39 amJN is a despicable jerk. No one should support or pity or speak for him. He abuses his power n authority as a director to prey on young girls. This is the result of his own infidelity, unfaithfulness and lust. HE DESERVED IT.
March 10th, 2010 at 2:42 amI can't imagine our minister George is supporting or rallying Jack Neo for such unscrupulous and despicable person. This is a shame to Singapore and he should not produce anymore lousy movies.
If such shame can be forgiven, then all Singaporean men and Ministers can be forgiven with such engagement. Please ask George to apologize to all 4 victims and draw a line from Jack Neo else PAP reputation will be tarnished.
I totally agree with Andy
March 10th, 2010 at 3:34 amI am sorry, Mr Yeo.
But this time round, I do not agree with you.
Rallying around an unfaithful man is just not right in my understanding of integrity.
To Mdm Kng, I wish you with your kids can pull through this strong and well.
March 10th, 2010 at 4:05 amwe should find out more about the victims background, from what the news reported these few days, it looks like no mother caring for her and teaching her how to protect herself…She is very childish at the age of 20…
March 10th, 2010 at 4:09 amWell, the so called 'naive' girl (Wendy Chong) – I think she is not so naive after all – only stupid!!!
March 10th, 2010 at 5:43 amShe should know all along he is a married man – so why want to get involved??? She should avoid him and run far far away – he is a celebrity so what???
The other lady – the second lady that came out to testify – yes – she is smart – to be able to escape from Jack Neo.
Don't be stupid – this kind of man – can only desribe them as 'older man trying his luck to hook a younger lady for a short period of sex-play '– until he gets tired of the girl – ends the relationship and find another girl around twenty – yr old again.
Aiyoh, Jack Neo now really made it big,
his story lagi hotter than noonday heat.
He veri paiseh kenah caught with his pants down,
jialat everyone knows… became the talk of town.
They say got 11 gals all kenah from him,
can easily form one woman football team.
In reel life Jack made Money No Enough,
in real life, it’s actually Honey No Enough.
Guys look for gals: young, chio n sweet,
then see oredi liao heart n legs all weak.
Guy’s speech always veri sweet,
gals blur blur easily kenah eat.
Stuck in relationship liao dun wan to let go,
that is when the problems grow and grow.
Then slowly things get veri veri bad until… BOOMZ
when they start doing funnie things in hotel rooms.
Mark Lee says wanna give him 2 tight slaps,
juz because hor, he feels veri sad and mad.
But why slap him… ouch! ouch!
when he’s oredi down and out?
Even his wife did not twist his ears
so siong until his eyes all got tears.
Wife oredi knew chose to close one eye,
'cos dun want a divorce and say bye bye.
This type of good woman where can find?
She’s worth more than one big gold mine!
Jack did not kill people or rob a bank
or smuggle drugs and kenah hanged.
So why you all wanna condemn him upside down?
After all he oni make good movies or act like clown.
Let us be kind and help him kick his bad habit,
encourage him to move on as He Is Not Stupid.
I hope he bounces back fast and just follow law,
be faithful and no longer chase after char bor.
Composed by "The SweetPopcorn"
10 March 2010 1:48 am
P.S. – PaiSeh, I think I deserve the No-Bell prize for Literature, liao!
March 10th, 2010 at 5:54 am''Referring to the media reports, Mr Yeo wrote: "Before the news broke on Saturday evening, Jack called to tell me. He wanted to tell me himself and not have me learn from newspaper reports.''
I personally believe that Mr Yeo shouldnt have announce his relationship with '' so and so'' in public ,especially in the media .It will give others a wrong impression that a certain group of ppl have strong political link and backing from a certain high ranking official.
Sporean are not interested the personal relatonship or personal friends and how close you are towards them .We are more interested in how the country is being govern .
Minister should refrain from publishing the name and how close their relationship with towards any individual .They should draw a line between personal issue and state issue so as to prevent any misunderstanding .
March 10th, 2010 at 7:30 amWell said, I totally support whatever you said. All of us should think hard and twice before we made any move/action carefully.
One wrong move/action can totally destroy us, whether we are rich or poor, famous or infamous.
Our conscience is our own Judge in which God has placed in everyone of us, whether we are aware or not.
Jack will be forgiven sooner or later, but it's just that because he is a public figure, everyone starts to talk about him.
To those of us who are not public figure, there is One Up There, who sees our every move; therefore we have to be very conscious of our actions.
MAY GOD BLESS ALL OF US.
March 10th, 2010 at 8:28 amABC Student of Human
It takes 2 hands to clap and often when uncovered, they always thought that by admiting the mistake(s) and accepting responsibilities will settle all. Unfortunately, it often creates a deep deep wound for their loved ones…..破镜难圆. Meanwhile, we should give some personal space to JN's family to sort things out. No 3rd person will be in the position to suggest or decide what is best for them. Perhaps, the wife and children only wish for some quiet moments, accept it and move on? Who are we to comment and judge? sighz
March 10th, 2010 at 9:26 ami guess there's a difference between men who err and men who have connections who err..
March 10th, 2010 at 12:59 pmA predatory psychopath and a narcissist. He is a serial sexual addict and will probably revert again once the fire dies down. He is daring and has risked his family's reputation and well being, the people who support him and shown great capacity to lie to everyone around him. Anyone, who may be manipulated or misled by him will be used according to his need to do so. He will use his acting skills to his advantage, as we have seen how he does so to his prey. Goodluck Jack, you will need it. My sincere sympathies to his wife and family. How long must they have suspected. What else will be uncovered in the ensuing weeks and months??
March 10th, 2010 at 1:07 pmJN is a cheat taking advantage of females with his empty promises of stardom to them.
March 10th, 2010 at 1:29 pmI totally agreed to the comments made by bunny, cassie etc.
Mr Yeo, how come I don't hear you giving advice and support to those young victims but to Jack and family only? Are you giving advice and support only to those who called or know you?
May I ask, do we need to rally those young victims and their family too?
We could have got more potential young talents joining the Singapore entertainment industry. Unfortunately, most of them already hunted by him silently all these years. What a pity.
To all young victims… be strong and speak up for yourself… I'm sure there are many willing to rally around you.
To Jack… Shame brought by you is enough!
March 10th, 2010 at 1:54 pmDo not encourage this action and the person. There will be a perception of thinking that this action is ok, since he is forgiven. The innocent will also think it is ok to do so or it is ok to get victimised. Predators are happy with the sympathy of course.
March 10th, 2010 at 2:17 pmMdm Kng, u are not suppose to close one eye and let the other women haressed by your fifth boy!!! Please do something good to the rest of the women…keep your fifth boy in the safe. Thank you if you do so.
March 10th, 2010 at 3:09 pmI can't believe you have such a friend. It is affecting your integrity as well. Think about it.
March 10th, 2010 at 3:20 pmjack neo is SICK! what he had done cannot be forgiven, even 15 years old girl also almost fell into his trap. Is our govt trying to encourage all the cizitens to do likewise?
March 10th, 2010 at 3:29 pmRally behind jack ? for what? he had enjoyed for the past few years for all the thrill and fun, now he is just suffering for these few days, and we need to quickly forgive him??? the sentence too light huh? pple shoplift kena caught, jailed for 1 week. he have fun for all these years, skirt chasing, rendevous in car, now asking us to quickly rally behind jack and family? what is the logic? how about the victims who kena harassed, molested and have sex with him? the stick has not hit him yet, he had not openly apologized to the ladies and to pple who trusted him. and we need to support him now?? i can't accept this Logic, please convince me otherwise. For this i think i have better logic and sense than our FM. Even my mother who is uneducated is very angry when i told her that our FM would like to rally behind him and family. my ma says that his wife should cut off his ….. instead. How can a minister support such a man??? Can someone who share the same sense as me speak up? i am very very angry now.
March 10th, 2010 at 3:58 pmBesides George Yeo, another MP Lim Biow Chuan was also being bombarded for his support and remarks on Jack Neo –
March 10th, 2010 at 6:27 pmhttp://singaporeseen.stomp.com.sg/stomp/sgseen/wh...
It is beyond my understanding that an intelligent 50yo boss schemed and intentionally abused his position can be let off so easily. Is there a crime involved in this case ? Can all husbands and bosses do the same and get away with it ?..even from supporting ministers, pastors, etc.
What is the moral of the story ?
March 11th, 2010 at 2:00 amI am once a JN's fan, his 'liang po po' act brought me a lot of wonderful memories during my teen. Me stand not an important role to pardon his sin, but am will definitely not rally around him for what he did!
March 11th, 2010 at 2:22 amJack Neo has done something wrong and have to face the consequences. His wife knew about it a year ago. In other words, there are plenty of opportunities for the couple to set things right. So why should we support them when they themselves did not put in effort to prevent what happened today?
March 11th, 2010 at 3:41 amwhat is wrong with our mps?
March 11th, 2010 at 3:42 amwhy must we rally with JN ?
and why is such scenario unavoidable in a man who has good development?
why are we outright condoning such behaviour?
is the government supporting and teaching wrong values to the young singaporeans? gosh!
JN had obviously abused his influential media status and harrassed the young girls…at the same time, these young girls had let him manipulate their minds thru their greed for material and fame…both arent victims as they surely know the kind of trouble they will eventually get into…
such affairs were meant to be confidential, dark secret…since ms chong had shamelessly revealed all their sexual secrets in public had meant this is all not for pure love at all…one will be too gullible to think what she or he had said is of any truth…
as for his wife…no comments…love is probably indeed really blind…
Did Jack called you because you are a buddy or was it because you were the ex-Minister of MITA who could influence the media coverage?
Most of us are not surprise by the revelation. It's common practice in his industry and even very senior civil servants like ex-general was known womanizer in night clubs. Another ex-BG was living in adultery, but local media were silent about it.
While we sympathize with his kids, his wife who selfishly allowed the affair to go on is as guilty as the husband. A wife who just wanted to preserve her own marriage allowed his husband to prey on young ladies. In my opinion, she deserve all the public attentions and shame she is getting.
Some of your ambbassors' behaviors overseas are not respectful. If you care for their families, you should have a word with them sooner.
March 11th, 2010 at 6:26 amDear Mr Yeo,
I do not agree. Do I have to rally behind all unfaithful husbands then? Why only Jack then?
He is full of remorse… of course! because he is caught (hand in cookie jar)! Do you think he will be remorse if he wasn't caught? I can bet my last dollar (including the clothes I'm wearing now) that he will be happily spending time with another teenage girl in his MPV if he wasn't caught.
Forgive just because he is "remorseful" or because "Life is a long and often difficult journey" …very hard for me to accept.
Jack should not apologise to the public. Instead, the apology should go to all the girls he has cheated and that he won't do it again. I'm not sure if he has done that today.
I won't pledge my full support to them, I will ONLY pledge my support to the wife and children. Jack can go to hell.
March 11th, 2010 at 8:28 amI think Mr Yeo is too quick to 'rally round him and his family'. Rallying for his family yes, but not yet for Neo, especially when he is a serial predator of young women for years. He is cunning enough to know that Minister Yeo is a kind Christian and perhaps impulsive enough to immediately shield him from the wrath of mothers and right thinking citizens. Was he concerned about involving and probably embarassing a minister in such a controversial matter? The public could misunderstand Mr Yeo's action, and draw the conclusion that celebrities with cultural medallon are more equal than others. Neo has to be punished before he can be forgiven. It seems his wife is not willing to do it, so it leaves only the public to do the job. An effective way is to boycott his films and withdraw endorsements (hurrah for Mitsubishi). If he earns less then he will behave better.
March 11th, 2010 at 11:16 amI think it is not right for any government officials, more so a senior Minister or MP, to have come out in support of Jack Neo. And as a citizen, taxpayer and a woman, I have a right to say it is unbecoming behaviour I expect of a Minister or any elected officials. What does it say about our government's moral values and constant emphasis on family values and women's rights when it comes out in support of not just a serial adulterer but a serial sexual harasser who preys on young vulnerable girls? You can call it what you want and try and blame the girls but it is sexual harassment and he is a sexual predator when a man who is their boss, in a position of power and influence, double their age, preys on teenage girls. Does George Yeo or Lim Biow Chuan have any teenage daughters? Would he have been as supportive if they were his daughters?
March 11th, 2010 at 7:25 pmDear Victor Lye,
I cannot agree with you. The heading is 'rallying around Jack Neo and his family', and it is a sad situation for his family but to rally around Jack Neo, NO. For whatever reasons that was Mr Yeo's stand then, I like to know what is his stand now after more has been revealed.
It should a boycott to all his movies. Cinemas should immediately take down his movies.
March 12th, 2010 at 1:44 amMr. Yeo, with due respect, please withdraw your support and give support to the victims. Jack Neo abused his authority and made advances on young naive teenagers.and it is not just one affair and there could be even more victims out there!
March 12th, 2010 at 2:05 amdid jack tell you his "girl friends" are as yang as 16?? and you actually support him??
March 12th, 2010 at 3:32 amKudos to you. By the way, ask any inmate serving their sentence and they will readily admit that they are remorseful. By this extension, why don't we pardon them as well. Then again, they are not men with good career development are they? Except maybe for the likes of Nick Leeson who brought down Barings.
March 12th, 2010 at 3:34 amWhat a load of rubbish..rally around him? I think Mr Yeo can better make use of his time to follow up on the case of the Romania diplomat. Oh by the way, did Mr Yeo call the family involved in the accident to show his support? Or rally us to show our support around the victim – Mr Tong's family?
March 12th, 2010 at 4:55 amHuge error of judgement by George Yeo here. And no, the posts by people like Victor Lye doesnt help and rings as true as Jack's rigged press conference on Thursday.
March 12th, 2010 at 5:39 amA fairer and more correct title to this blog should be: 'Rallying around Jack Neo's wife and her family'
Hope that those who support Jack neo will rethink about what will happen if you are the father or mother of the girl who he bedded. Look at the age of the girls, they are all young and full of dreams, he use his position and connection to get the girls. Is this the type of person that one should support? will u entrust your daughters in joining him or his team? I certainly will not want my children to be near him. Now he is claiming to be carefull towards women, my god, what is he implying now!!! he is not the person in the picture now? Those women give themselves to him because of his talent ? Anyway, feel sick reading his statement, all rubbish and put all wrong on the other parties and using his wife as a tool.
March 12th, 2010 at 1:46 pmAnyway, he can go to hell with his talent.
In a situation like this,it is too easy to just point the finger at one party,i.e. Jack Neo.Actually it takes two to tango.Would it be the fault of Jack Neo ,or the girl (knowing that he has wife and children) or the girl's parents for not guiding her?Remember everytime you point at someone you have three fingers pointing back at yourself.
March 12th, 2010 at 4:14 pmIt is correct to rally around Jack Neo since he realises his mistake and encourage him to turn over a new leaf with support and encouragement. By flogging him daily you are hurting his wife and children even more. This is so sadistic.It is correct that we should encourage his wife to be patient for the sake of their marriage and children. After all they have declared their love for each other. Love conquers all. How blessed they are to have such forgiving love. as for Wendy Chong,she was the one who called the press and she got what she wanted which is publicity.
We should rally around them to protect them from busybodies who are out to attack them or like the "free show" Quite disgusting
March 12th, 2010 at 4:59 pmThe man has already apologised and we should rally round him too to encourage him to be "rehabilitated". Everyone was hurt and the spectators should stop throwing rocks at them and start thinking of other things and minding their own business.
March 12th, 2010 at 5:01 pmI think Minister Yeo is too hasty in urging us to rally round Neo and family. Support his family, yes. Sympathise with Neo, NO, not yet. The way I read it, he is worse than Tiger Wood. Wood was upfront with his liason partners who are wordly wise and he probably paid them handsomely for the services, like dealing with highclass prostitutes I reckon. Neo is much more sinister and dangerous. He preys on young girls, probably naive, trying to make a living or seeking fame. He is a serial predator (not philanderer) with premedidated evil intention and doing it for years. He has to be punished before he can be forgiven. An effective way is to boycott his films and products of his sponsors who still support him.
March 12th, 2010 at 10:12 amWow…. a singapore foreign minister, George Yeo, asked Singapore people to rally around a pervert and young girls predator, JACK NEO.
March 12th, 2010 at 4:18 pmCan imagine Hillary Clinton ask USA people to rally around Tiger Woods.
Haha…. I am amazed.
Remember that it was CHong who called the press and started all this publicity. Why could she not settle the matter in private with Jack and his family? That would spare us the lurid details. Unfortunately there are many people who love to read and comment on others' lurid details and mistakes.Shame on them. maybe it is time for such people to spend more time guiding their children so that they would never dream of getting into this situation like CHong whatever the temptation whether for fame fortune or love so that one could never be a "family breaker".
March 12th, 2010 at 4:19 pmRally around a mentally sick man? Am I hearing things wrongly? Lusting after a young girl and sending suggestive smses. Just becoz he is a public figure does not mean that he can abuse his authority.
March 12th, 2010 at 4:37 pmIf the case happens to a married woman using her authority to have series of young boys as her toy boys… would we rally or men in general able to forgive and rally support? Where is the yardstick?
We should support Jack Neo as he tries to turn over a new leaf since he has admitted his wrong and is remorseful. We should support his wife as she tries to forgive her husband,and give her some privacy. We should support the children to shield them from the publicity and by allowing the adults to sort out their problems privately.We seem to forget that it was the young girl who called the press and wanted to have publicity for her grievances.
March 12th, 2010 at 4:43 pmI think you missed the point. We should rally around Jack as he is remorseful and admitted his fault and we should encourage him to turn over a new leaf. If you keep on hammering Jack even after he has apoloigised and his own wife has forgiven him, it is just being mean. Following your reasoning,all the prisons in the world will not be enough because every wrongdoer will be imprisoned for life and nobody will be forgiven. I think jack has been punished enough. To do more to him (and this will affect his wife and children) is to be sadistic.
March 12th, 2010 at 4:53 pmRally only behind unfaithful husbands who are remorseful. those who wish others go to hell may end up going to hell themselves .
March 12th, 2010 at 4:55 pmJack Neo is a hypocrite. There is no sincerity in his apology. His actions speak louder than words. Jack is a sexual predator, guilty of grooming minors to satisfy his base urges. His profession of “love” to his charges and to his wife are merely a cover for “please give me what I what”.
It is also very sad that his wife does not stand up to expose his lies and nonsense. She is utterly confused and does not understand that when she condones his philandering ways, she is indirectly responsible for the harm which Jack has managed to inflict upon his young and rather naïve victims.
In the meanwhile, the Singapore Police should launch an investigation into charges of child grooming and sexual harassment which many of Jack’s young charges have levied on him during these past few days. Either Jack is guilty and should be prosecuted, or he has been unfairly maligned.
(This comment first appeared in the Temasek Review on 11 Mar 2010.)
March 12th, 2010 at 5:18 pm[...] George Yeo, what on earth were you thinking of coming to Jack’s rescue? As Mr Brown has pointed out, you’re the Minister of Foreign Affairs, so go deal with [...]
March 13th, 2010 at 8:58 amJack Neo apparently did not say the whole story to his good friend George. Sucker!
March 13th, 2010 at 4:35 amNothing personal, but I think you made a really bad call.
http://dotseng.wordpress.com/2010/03/13/jack-neo-...
March 14th, 2010 at 3:40 pmthis one takes the cake….
rally around a sexual predator? what about those preyed on? abandon them?
March 14th, 2010 at 7:53 am[...] convinced that Jack’s affair was real will certainly not hesitate to quote foreign minister George Yeo, but I would suggest that one exercises caution in referencing blog entries, even if it may appear [...]
March 14th, 2010 at 6:40 pmRally your head lah, he got big house, big car and plenty of time and cash to go play other girls, is he still need us to rally for him??!! Better go spend your time go help those needless old people than rally for a WOMANIZER!!
March 14th, 2010 at 11:56 amMy respects to you Minister Yeo. For the sake of your bigger organisations, you should seriously think about all the advice and comments in your blog regarding this JN saga. It is not doing you any good, but it is also doing greater harm to any organisation you are involved in. You are a good man, why be dragged down by someone like JN? Really dread to think about how many netizens searching for JN news and be also drawn into negative news about the current government and political party. Your blog speaks one of the loudest voice, and for you not to take the advice here, oh no…I just don't know what will happen at the next election. Please do something before it is too late! Support Irene's family and the victims, NOT JN!
March 14th, 2010 at 2:33 pmIf this is the kind of political "LEADERS" S'pore is trying to manufacture, then I fear for the country due to the latest incident with George Yeo's comment about "JACK NEO RALLYING" and that other MP's "misquoted" comments really tells me the quality of its "leaders"… very disappointed….
March 15th, 2010 at 4:58 amWow you guys should go over to Jack's blog and see how he get his supporters (church members) to post supportive comments on is blog! What a joke! He must be thinking that Singaporean are stupid to believed it! My friends and I posted our negative comments but all was deleted and only some very mild negative comments are up…you call this really repent? He never repent lah…he is just a monster waiting and bidding for him time and then he will go and hunt young girls again…..Here a questions for you Jack..I am also 50 yrs old, if I seduce your daughter who is 19 yrs old, will you give your blessing? Of course you will lah…since you like to seduce young girls so much right?
March 15th, 2010 at 1:47 amLets be fair…
We are a very tightly knit community in Singapore. Everyone in Singapore knows one another somehow through a myriad of connections. It so happens here that Jack Neo is aquainted with Mr. George Yeo.
As Singaporeans who live in a competitive economy and are well educated, we are intelligent and naturally more suspicious of those who might abuse their wealth, power and connections.
One of the things that must be going through Jack Neo’s mind is the irony of how easily you will be reviled and cast down by the public the minute he does something wrong.
I am also suspicious of those who might come “crying to his big Minister friend” if he has done something wrong. But let us give Mr. George Yeo the benefit of the doubt.
Mr George Yeo is a Minister for our country and he has to lead by example He cannot ask for forgiveness if he is not willing to give his friend a chance.
Strangers can go on hating Jack Neo for the rest of their lives with no stress on themselves. However, friends and family cannot bear to hold hate and anger at their friends and loved ones forever. Someday, we have to learn how to forgive.
Jack Neo made many wrong choices in the past.
Jack Neo has reaped what he has sown.
Let us move on.
On the other hand, I hope that Mr. George Yeo is flying off to HK simply because he wants to distance himself from the issue. That would just be hypocritical.
March 15th, 2010 at 10:33 amBravo!
March 15th, 2010 at 2:41 amI think the young girl SHOULD call the press. Obviously, telling The Wife didn't have any effect on JN… If she hadn't called the press, we would not know Jack Neo for the man he is.
Thank you Wendy, for blowing Jack's cover. Or else, the nation may have suffered even more later as Jack Neo continues to gain undeserved influence, stature and reputation. The nation is warned now.
March 15th, 2010 at 3:41 amI am very sad to see the BP has decided to blow this matter up. They could have used their considerable influence to lower the temperature and even bring harmony to the rest of blogosphere. But instead for whatever reason known only to that so destructive power called Darkness, they decided, we will do it this way and to hell with the world and everything else.
This is very disappointing for someone so gifted, intelligent and blessed. You could have done much better Dr Darkness.
March 15th, 2010 at 4:01 amIt would appear that Jack Neo did not learn from this sorry saga. Not only did he not issue a proper apology befitting his celebrity status (and also he enjoyed a position of trust as a role model from his hypocritical movies), he went on to protest that he cheated with ONLY 1 girl!
And he had the cheek to question the integrity and motives of the other 10 girls who spoke out against him. Would he have not proceeded to have sex with the other 10 girls if they had said yes?
From media reports, it seems that he may indeed have cheated with "Le Xuan", since she said that "if I confess to having sex with him, it will lead to greater outburst". One wonders what she was implying what we think she was implying?
I hope that the other girls will make police reports to determine whether or not crimes have been committed (sexual harassment, sexual grooming).
Considering he is thinking of banking on this controversy to make a movie about these events, it is truly shameless and begs the question: Why is he still hanging on to his Cultural Medallion? Why have the ministers not retracted their statement of support to him?
March 15th, 2010 at 8:13 amIt would appear that Jack Neo did not learn from this sorry saga. Not only did he not issue a proper apology befitting his celebrity status (and also he enjoyed a position of trust as a role model from his hypocritical movies), he went on to protest that he cheated with ONLY 1 girl!
I hope that at least one of the girls will proceed to make police reports to ascertain whether sexual harassment and grooming laws have been broken.
March 15th, 2010 at 10:28 amWow, someone is comparing Ah Nan (阿南) to MP Lim Biow Chuan at this blog –
http://sgsureanot.blogspot.com/
So Ah Nan (阿南) for PAP?
March 16th, 2010 at 5:55 amAh Beng Speaks: I tink our society got problem
This Jack Neo thing is dying down now after 2 weeks
I tink not oni Jack is in the wrong but oso the public.
They say Jack in movies teach people to do good
but in real-life hor, he is actually black like soot.
They say they disappointed he's no role model
'cos he got involved with tat 22-year-old model.
But you all must have your own moral stand
why look to other people, esp. look to man?
Go movies just learn from story and enjoy it lah
no nid 2 copy wat the actors in private do in car.
Want role model har, how about 7 Dwarfs and Snow White?
All macho men with one chio girl but everything still alright.
The little dwarfs very well behaved wan, not perverts
so got no sex scandal and Snow White not molested.
They oso din do “that thing” inside car big big
behind curtains so people cannot anyhow peep.
Then got one minister said rally around Jack
'cos when he heard his story he felt veri sad.
He being human got kind thoughts
'cos he got a heart, not like a robot.
So chose to reach out in love n help a bit
I believed he oso does that to all in need.
Lidat he oso kenah flamed until chow tah in forums n blogs
ask people to show kindness oso kenah treated like a dog.
Aiyo-yo Singaporeans, why you all so lidat?
Look into mirror, see if you're good or bad.
I tink we Singaporeans still dunno how to exercise grace.
Grace is "u deserve 2 kenah slapped but I'll give u face."
We are like our planet, got day and got night
we all got a bright side and oso one dark side.
Our bright side we make sure we show around
until people tink we are the oni angel in town.
Our dark side we veri worried other people see
so cover up like mad, scared until want to pee.
But other people's mistakes we pump up like balloon
and all their good deeds we'll seldom ever give room.
We all are like gold just dug from ground
look like dunno wat, all black and brown.
Dun look precious at all, dirty like hell
must refine through fire then can sell.
They say failure is the mother of success
we'll forever go through this heated test.
The higher you climb the harder you fall
but you can oso be like a ping pong ball.
The harder you fall the higher you can bounce
if u got frens to help u when u hit the ground.
Most people are like a sharp knife, cut and cut
few are like a stretcher that can pick people up.
Once people fall oni we quickly crush him flat flat
we whack and stomp on him until he die like rat.
Even take knife stab him one time no enough
must go and deep fry him in oil like curry puff.
We oni look up to those who are stylo milo
but heck care those who’re oni stylo Kopi-O.
We kiasu always want 100%, everything perfect
'cos we scared other people give us no respect.
We cannot accept it even if we score 99.9
if not, like kenah disaster, we cry n whine.
We want other people to be perfect too,
if they are not hor, we cow pae cow bu.
This Jack Neo saga has made one thing clear
it's this perfection problem we have got here.
In our society, imperfections we cannot tolerate
I tink hor we better change, it's still not too late.
Composed by Cornelius Pang "The Sweet Popcorn"
17 March 2010 3:00 am
My Motto: I'll only stop composing when I start decomposing
March 16th, 2010 at 8:40 pmA friend in need is a friend indeed.
Minister Yeo, Can I be your friend?
March 17th, 2010 at 10:12 amI love to rally around Jack and Wendy. There is only one niggling question that has been bothering me. Is Jack Neo linked to the PAP in any way? Does he for example hold any position or is he even a registered PAP member. Many Thanks. I just want to make certain. I dont look like a fool if I decide to rally around Jacky and Wendy. Many thanks and Good Luck.
March 17th, 2010 at 7:05 amHey, let's rally around Foyce for being a brave girl. She may not be a saint but at least she is a brave soul.
Who's lying? "People do, heaven see".
I certainly wish JN boy admits ALL his misdeeds and move. But now he is saying Foyce is lying and if the police found enough evidence to charge him, that will be a big issue.
If he shows that he is really really repentant, I am sure people will forgive him. After all, we do have a yellow or blue or whatever colour ribbon campaign right?
But for heaven's sake, first stop lying. Then show people you have turned over a new leaf. How? Maybe go for sex therapy, do some social work to guide youths, do something!!
March 18th, 2010 at 4:25 amEven as Jack Neo is really fully to be blamed for causing all this, he should also be sympathised as to err is human.
March 23rd, 2010 at 5:36 pmGeorge is mutually acquainted with Jack, so its okay if he supports him
It may sound wrong but please, not only one side of the party is hurt. Jack wll also be carrying the guilt throughout his life, you can't just be inhuman and hammer him down like this, he has been serving for Singapore for many years.
I mean, just because he is successful and all doen't need you all to be jealous of him. I am a bit disappointed of this typical human reaction, when a successful person falls, people will just bring him down further because they are selfish.
We should support not only the hurt, but also Jack as well.
It's not about extra affair, it's about using his position to exploit girls, I mean girlssss.
March 28th, 2010 at 5:12 amThere is no such thing as forgiveness, only degrees of guilt.
April 13th, 2010 at 10:10 am